Yes. Because what is that gonna do? Make you hate the cancer. Despise it. Fight it. Not physically, but mentally. And all that energy will be missing where you’ll really need it: in actually dealing with cancer. That doesn’t mean you ignore it or just “give up.” But frame it as a prompt to accept and adapt, not a problem you either must figure out or you’ll die (which you will anyway, one way or another). It’s very hard to explain your way there, but once you really practice it and ask: “What if I stopped considering this a problem?” it can sink in. A Quora answer put this well: A guy replaced the word “problem” with “project.” Imagine how someone would deal with cancer if they saw it as a project vs. a problem. Weird, right? But for me it’s also easy to imagine they would tackle it better.

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