…he effort is not directed at the self, the partner, and the entity of the relationship. In my case, I spend a great deal of energy attempting to empower my wife, make sure she has what she needs, making sure she isn’t being held back by the relationship, is heard, understood, and loved. I also am in better physical condition than I was before I got married. I think I’m working much ha…
The statistics on online dating aren’t so bad! People tend to marry sooner and while overall divorce rates are still terrible, couples who met online seem to stay together for longer. At least based on the little long-term data there is so far.
I think what you’re describing is exactly in line with the idea. Basically, you take care of yourself while letting her be herself. That is a big effort, but it’s not aimed at extracting the maximum love out of the relationship. That’s the sinking part.
Swimming is a lot more like floating than we think. One of the best techniques is called total immersion. It’s almost without movement. Just a flick here and there and then you glide through the water.
Really happy for you!