I tell stories to help you live better. I’ll treat you with respect and value your time. I promise. Join 80,000 others. ⤵

From simpleton to schemer to zen, it’s all part of the plan

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Michael Weidemann on Unsplash

The more you advance in your career, the easier each working day should become.

Not easier in the sense that you won’t make hard decisions or accomplish big goals, but easygoing in the sense that each day is straightforward, calm, and devoid of pressure.

If your workday gets harder the more you achieve, you’re trading your expert status for the wrong rewards.

A partner at a big consulting company, for example, might work even longer hours than an associate. She may constantly fret about her partner status, the high stakes in each deal, and the ill-will among her peers. That’s not independence, that’s a shark tank: You get out or you get eaten. …


Self-awareness, not effort, determines our productivity

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Windows on Unsplash

Self-awareness rules productivity.

How much you can work is not determined by how hard you try, it is determined by how well you know yourself.

Hardworking people constantly fight their limitations. Smart people work with those limitations instead of against them.

The only way to maximize your output and creativity across your entire life is to do the most you can on the most number of days. …


A list of the 5 most common themes for self-analysis and growth

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Magnet.me on Unsplash

“If you’re so smart, how come you aren’t happy?”

That’s Naval Ravikant’s challenge¹ to everyone bathing in the misery of their own intelligence. “Happiness is a choice,” he says; something you can work on, like your fitness, nutrition, or career.

Naval knows it’s a choice because he too had to make it for himself: “I was born poor and miserable, and I’m now pretty well off and very happy — and I worked at those.”

Naval also knows that’s an unpopular statement to make for two reasons:

  1. Some people are depressed at a molecular level and thus have a real, biological disadvantage. …


Two questions to eliminate dread and replace it with joy

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by averie woodard on Unsplash

In 1902, Remington advertised its breakthrough appliance — the first commercial typewriter — with the following slogan: “To save time is to lengthen life.”

It’s a powerful phrase, and for years, Richard Polt thought it was true. Polt is a typewriter collector, but he’s also a professor of philosophy. Eventually, he came to the following realization: “The more time you save, the more time you waste, because you’re doing things that are only a means to an end.”

I don’t like email. For years, I’ve layered hack upon hack to minimize the time I spend in my inbox. I’ve disabled all email notifications. I’ve set up filters so certain emails never show up as unread messages. I’ve created snippets I can copy and paste. I even made a rule to never check email before 11 AM, and I try to batch-process it whenever possible — and yet, I still spend time in my inbox every day. I waste less time, but I’m still stuck doing something I don’t enjoy, because none of my measures got to the heart of the…


An easy-to-overlook principle of good business

A group stands on a street, with some holding stacks of newspapers.
A group stands on a street, with some holding stacks of newspapers.
Photo by Boston Public Library on Unsplash

Three weeks into studying abroad in the U.S., I started missing German bread. I love American food, but when it comes to “Brotzeit,” those pale, floppy slices of toast just don’t cut it.

I wanted a loaf. I wanted rye. I wanted the sour, moist-yet-crunchy freshness only German bread can provide. Unfortunately, it was impossible to find.

Necessity is the mother of invention, they say, and so eventually, I became desperate enough to decide to bake my own. Since my baking skills are on par with a nine-year-old, this was a much larger-scale effort than it might seem.

I scoured the aisles for flours of the right kind and the web for a recipe that didn’t look like the script for the next Mission Impossible. I looked for fresh yeast everywhere (no luck). I watched tons of YouTube videos. …


So what’s the point of waiting?

Image for post
Image for post
Photo by Tim Foster on Unsplash

I don’t know if it was the American air or my stats professor going on about Tim Ferriss, but one day while studying abroad, I decided I would start waking up at 5 AM simply because I liked it.

I love the quietude of early mornings. The world is asleep, and there’s peace in knowing that alone. But it’s also a great time to read, to learn, and to get things done. …


“The body keeps the score,” she said, quoting the title of one of the world’s leading books on trauma. She is Debbie Millman, and she’s talking to Tim Ferriss about his (and her) childhood sexual abuse.

When I started meditating last year, one of the first things I learned was that your brain is fuller than you could ever imagine. Trillions of microscopic impressions have been imposed on it for decades, and every single one of them was recorded. The mind buries — but it never truly forgets.

That’s why meditation is one of the simplest yet most challenging habits to master: Sooner or later, it will send everything you’ve ever experienced back up into your consciousness, and there’s a lot there you don’t really want to see — which is exactly why you must. …


Once you become aware of a problem, your mind will try and solve it.

It doesn’t matter whether you want it to or not. Your subconscious does what it wants, and, luckily, it wants to find creative solutions to all kinds of challenges — so much so, in fact, it can barely help itself.

That’s why communication is key — among teams, among friends, among lovers. Humans can’t consider what they don’t know, but everything they do know will somehow be factored into the equation, if only at a subconscious level.

The employee who flags overwhelm won’t be fired without warning. The friend bringing up group dynamic will get everyone to the table. …


Don’t kick yourself when you’re down. How would that help you get up?

Big Self School asked 14 people how they avoid burnout. I told them I have faith.

A big share of your brain activity is unconscious. The part we partially control is quite small, but it’s the part we wrestle with all day long — and yet, how much control we have is unrelated to how much value our brains can create.

When we feel tired, procrastinate, take a break, or go on vacation, we think we’re not being productive because we’re not actively fighting with our brain over a small speck of cognitive land. Meanwhile, the subconscious is constantly processing what was sent down; what fell out of that tiny consciousness zone long ago. …


Eventually, we’ve just lived so long it feels like they are.

A 90-year-old can pick up the trumpet. A 50-year-old can start a company. A 20-year-old can advise one.

It’s never too late to try something new. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Not your friends. Not your parents. Not even your habits or society at large.

Resist.

There are no rules. You can do anything. Don’t forget.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store